Bows before Bros. Rosie and I’ve been talking about this for a couple of years- why it’s important to put your girlfriends first when you start to become interested in boys. While she understands the concept, we keep having discussions about teenage behavior in school and out that leads me to believe that this may not be an easy topic for all parents to handle. Why? First, they’d actually have to sit down with their kids for a discussion. Some parents aren’t comfortable doing that (which sucks because that’s their job) and face it- some kids just won’t listen. But, if you have a tween (yes, tween start early) that will actually hear you, here are some things that are important to share with them.
Friends come first– The girls that you’ve been giggling with since first grade, they will hopefully be with you for the long haul. You need to respect those friendships and put your bows before bros. What does that mean? You don’t cancel plans with your friends for a boy. And, when a friend needs you, you stop face timing the cute boy from Language Arts and take their call.
Honesty is the best policy– If you like a boy, you better tell your friends because they aren’t mind readers and you run the risk of someone else having a crush on them. Also, never lie about your plans to your friends- you will get busted if you blow off a friend for a boy (especially now with social media).
Flirt with caution– Your BFF broke up with a boy six months ago and swears she doesn’t like him. Is it okay for you to flirt with him? Probably not. Regardless of what she says, there may be feelings there and she may be a little protective of him. Might as well steer clear and find someone else to like.
Say you’re sorry– So, you didn’t know your Bestie liked a boy and now he likes you, what do you do? Say you’re sorry because you didn’t know your friend had feelings for him. Empathy will take you a long way in life.
You’re not going to marry your middle school love– Unfortunately, your first love is probably not going to be your last and when it’s over, you’re going to need your friends. You’ll want to make sure they’re around for you when you want to vent or cry.
Proceed with caution– Some boys like to play games and flirt with lots of girls. Watch them as they are the ones that will come between friends. And, remember, you only get one chance to have that first kiss. Choose a winner.
What are your tips for your tween to navigate this tricky time?
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