Yep. You read that right. I may need to switch gears and become a fashion blogger. They seem to have cool lives, get a lot of free clothes and quite possibly have the potential to make more money off clicks then I do. They’re also fairly non-controversial and that’s my main reason.
Yesterday, I took down a post. In all the years that I’ve been blogging, I’ve never removed a post once it’s up (and trust me, when I wrote for a paper I took a lot of grief). But yesterday, my child was begging me from her room to pull it. Seems that her ask.fm was blowing up with questions surrounding the subject of the post. To save her a lot of grief, I removed it and an Instagram pic just to be safe. Proof that I’ll do anything for my kid.
As we were in the car later she said, “I think it’s so funny that everyone thinks you’re the cool mom. They read your blog, follow your social media. They actually care what you have to say.”
I let that one slide because I know that high school’s around the corner and my chances of continuing to be cool are numbered. But, it did cause me to think about this post removal thing. And, since her friends do periodically read me, I want to be very clear about a few things regarding this post so we’re on the same page.
I wrote in general terms about a situation that never should’ve happened in middle school. It was wrong. Period. And, it’s all over all of the teenage social media channels in lots of discussion so if you think that me writing about it made it the talk of the town, think again and check your own phone.
Why did I write about it? Hmmm. My kid’s been asked that a lot. I am a parenting blogger. While I like to protect everyone and give them privacy, I do have the opportunity from time to time to post and help another child. Or mother. Hell, sometimes I even help myself. If you read the point of the post, it wasn’t geared towards kids, it was another reason why parents need to monitor their social media. Period.
Now a few things about my blog. I try very hard to protect my child and her posse’s privacy. However, there are times when I tell a story and yes, you may think it’s you. If you do, it might be. Or it might not. Either way, you probably need to take a step back, challenge your behavior and make some adjustments because if I’ve written about it there’s a compelling reason. Case in point- a few years ago I wrote a blog about lying. I received lots of apologies from people who lied to me that week. The blog wasn’t about any of them and boy was that interesting when I told each and every one.
In the past two years, I’ve had to change my blog because my daughter’s growing up and I’m cool with that but I refuse to censor myself when it comes to hot topics of bad behavior. I will change names and talk in generalities but if your friends figure out it’s you? That’s your problem. It’s not my job to protect what I like to call, “teens gone bad (or going bad or on the road to bad….)
Whew! I feel much better. So, I think I’ll back away from the fashion blogger idea. I don’t really like to shop. I’m not really that into clothes and probably can’t fit my middle-aged frame into today’s fashions. Plus, I have a lot of great ideas for future blogs. None of them having to do with fashion.